Hey all:
I have had one of those weeks where it became phenomenally evident that to ask for clarity on a decision was seen as insubordinate...this is bad enough if it happens in a job where they pay you but is a super pain in the neck when this happens where you are volunteering a great deal of your time for pay equal to a giant zero.
Here is the story, a decision was made on a community wide initiative through committee and then announced to the community before any discussion among those of us responsible for supporting this. So, OK...miscommunication on that front...bad omen and a bit of a repeat of past behavior but we can move forward. The issue that loomed larger was the lack of respect for those of us raising concerns. We were told that our questions amounted to micro-managing. Excuse me?
Let me see if I understand, I am here (unpaid may I remind you) giving countless hours of service to this program, to the world I am partly responsible for decisions and for strategic movements for this program. If someone sues then I am up for depositions, arbitration, a letter of claim to seek deeper pockets if it gets that big and you are saying sit down and stop rocking the boat.
Are you serious?
Okay...if you know me at all, not my style. I rock...I question, I seek clarity and detail on process. I also never hold anyone to something I would not ask of myself. So, what to do...I tried to go over and around and get the issue into the light of day but to no avail..In the end I had to decide to protect my reputation, my assets (literally and figuratively) and I resigned. I would never view the players the same way because a level of trust had now been irretrievably broken. I have given my heart and soul to this program and I believed. Now I stand here a bit wiser and a whole lot less happy.
There are other programs, there are other causes, I am not daunted. I will find my path to continue to give back to the field of education. I know that there are places out there where to ask the clarifying question is honored and not ridiculed. Hey, maybe there is even a place where someone may say thank you for your efforts and mean it by showing that in their actions...and not just at the last minute as a face saving effort.
Onward, the work was good in its time and the belief in doing the right thing remains. I will still rock (the boat) and ask the hard questions.
My advice would be to believe in the courageous conversations and do not fear disagreement, magic often comes if you can stay in the "fight". I wish I had the energy to stay in the current fight in the same arena but I know that I can do more with my new blooming options.
Stayed tuned, new adventures loom.
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Sunday, January 10, 2010
New Year, new slate, new opportunities
Resolutions:
R = read more for fun
E = exercise because it is my time
S = see friends more
O = open my eyes to the beauty around me
L = listen more
U = understand that things take time (sometimes)
T = take time for giggles with my children
I = invest more
O = open my heart
N = notice people on the street
S = say what needs to be said
Tuesday, December 29, 2009
Being inside the box
One of the challenges facing employees these days is the reality of feeling boxed in professionally while jumping ship is hard to do in this economy.
The picture: Your salary is frozen at 2007 levels, you cannot get the needed staffing support, more work comes your way, big bosses are still getting raises (and staffing support), you are not getting access to the high profile projects in order to grow and succeed in your role...in short, you are being boxed into a corner of stagnation.
This can happen for many reasons but the usual reason is a perception from one individual with the power of the puppet strings. They may fear your strength and see blocking access for you as a safety measure, they may be discriminating based on gender, race etc., they may be mommy/daddy tracking you, your overall dissatisfaction with your job may be shining through and you just do not seem interested in more work/bigger roles, you might be so swamped trying to manage the load you already carry that more meetings and projects has become impossible.
I am saying here that whatever the reason, it is time to be building your escape plan, unless you enjoy being disrespected that is...but what to do in the meantime? Learn all you can by taking every training program possible (ask for more training), complete all outstanding projects with class, speak up in all the most positive ways you can think of, collaborate with co-workers where you can, clean up and out your office/cubicle/desk, clean up you computer files, update your resume, build your reference base, begin to explore jobs on the Internet (not at work)...print these postings out and keep them as a reminder of what is out there...compare salaries...make a solid plan, think about where you want to be in a year. What do you need to do to get there? Maybe your current employer pays for classes (one way to get your salary back).
Meet with a career counselor/coach to set goals and devise a step by step plan and to help you stay on track. They will not do the work for you but will help your motivation and correct some bad habits. Keep in mind that you have access to Career Services as an alumni of a university. If you did not go to college, look for employment one stop centers in your area (they are free or very low cost).
We all feel stuck at one point or another. I tend to think that this feeling is what lets us know it is truly time to move on. This can mean a new role in the company or a new company. Either way, if you do this with forethought and planning, it will make life better. Do not jump too fast based upon unhappiness.
(Remember, all of what I said above is not based upon harassment in the workplace. This is a truly serious and illegal occurrence. HR and potentially lawyers will need to be brought into the process).
Happy 2010 and new beginnings for us all! Stay tuned...
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
Out with the old...
Well here we are at the edge of 2009 leaning into the void to try for the first glimpse of what is to come. I don't know about you, but I am very excited. This current year has been filled with wonderful times for me and mine but has also had its share of challenges, hurts and plain old bad ideas. Just around the corner begins not only a new year but a new decade.
In this coming year my son will begin high school, my daughter will start 7th grade (what?), Mark will hit the one year anniversary of his new job (3 weeks in so far), I will re-learn my Spanish, rehab my knee (still pain free people), finally paint my kitchen, email less, use the phone more, keep up with my blog with weekly updates (really, I will), spend more time with friends (hear that Hula Honeys), think before I volunteer yet again, reinvent myself professionally, put myself a tiny bit closer to the top of my own to do list and giggle a whole lot more.
As I look around at the mosaic patterns that create my life's portrait...I am happy with who I am and with the people in my life. My universe has been expanding the past few months with re-found friends and family and for this I am blessed...you know who you are!
I have come through many a stumble over the past decade by just standing up and finishing the race. It has not always been pretty, but I have finished. I have learned a great deal about myself from my choices, good and bad. Some important people have come in and out of my life and I have learned that you should just not open the door for some folks if you know what I mean (and yes, you too know who you are). In the end, all is forgiven...I forgive myself for being profoundly human and whatever...it will make a great book one day.
So, get out there and thoroughly enjoy the dwindling days of 2009. We shall never pass this way again except in out own memory rewrites.
Avanti!
In this coming year my son will begin high school, my daughter will start 7th grade (what?), Mark will hit the one year anniversary of his new job (3 weeks in so far), I will re-learn my Spanish, rehab my knee (still pain free people), finally paint my kitchen, email less, use the phone more, keep up with my blog with weekly updates (really, I will), spend more time with friends (hear that Hula Honeys), think before I volunteer yet again, reinvent myself professionally, put myself a tiny bit closer to the top of my own to do list and giggle a whole lot more.
As I look around at the mosaic patterns that create my life's portrait...I am happy with who I am and with the people in my life. My universe has been expanding the past few months with re-found friends and family and for this I am blessed...you know who you are!
I have come through many a stumble over the past decade by just standing up and finishing the race. It has not always been pretty, but I have finished. I have learned a great deal about myself from my choices, good and bad. Some important people have come in and out of my life and I have learned that you should just not open the door for some folks if you know what I mean (and yes, you too know who you are). In the end, all is forgiven...I forgive myself for being profoundly human and whatever...it will make a great book one day.
So, get out there and thoroughly enjoy the dwindling days of 2009. We shall never pass this way again except in out own memory rewrites.
Avanti!
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
Hiring Managers and Karma
I want to first say that not everyone in the business of recruiting/hiring is doing this and for those of you staying true to the highest of principles during this bad economy, thank you!
BUT...
Hey all of you folks out there in the business of posting jobs, receiving resumes, setting up interviews, interviewing, making hiring decisions etc... I know you are busy, but...
I am working with students (undergraduate and graduate level), new alums entering the workforce, well trained and highly skilled alums with years of experience, colleagues in search of work, friends and family who have been laid off...you get my drift...I am working with people across the entire spectrum of careers, professional specializations, skills sets, ages, gender, ethnic groups and so on...they have at least two things in common:
1.) They are in search of a job
2.) They feel that during the process, they have been treated in an appalling way by organizations seeking employees
The complaints go like this: (some of these have always been so and some are clearly new in the game)
1.) No response: They send a resume and do not even get a simple email response (which can be automated people!) to notify the sender of receipt of the resume/cover letter. There is apparently a huge black hole circling the Earth like a ring of Saturn sucking up all the resumes and cover letters. How else to explain the dead air that greets so many applicants?
2.) HR is outsourced so they are talking to an HR person in Idaho for a job in San Diego. The HR firm clearly has no real idea about the structure of the office for which the person is applying and therefore the details shared about reporting structure, office setting, interview dates and so on have little, if any, bearing in reality. I am working with someone who has now been told 3 different individuals will be his supervisor for this one job. We figure he will find out once he actually begins his job.
3.) In house HR offices have been downsized to the point of insanity. One person is now HR, recruiting, payroll, and even operations! This may explain 1 and 2 above but it does not explain the organizational decision to do this in the first place. My grandmother used to call this "penny-wise, pound foolish"!
4.) The number of interviews being conducted to get to the point of an offer has gotten completely out of hand. I know someone who went on 12 interviews (yes, I said 12) only to lose the job in the last round once the VP determined he was over 50! Twelve interviews for one job...give me a break, do you really think that many people need to be in the process? If yes, they for heaven sake...have you heard of panel interviews! The candidate felt as thought the window washer would be called in next to give his opinion. Don't even get me started on the visual of the VP using the date of college graduation to actually do the math on the resume to calculate the applicant's age!!!
5.) The timeline from job posting to phone screen to first on site interview to potential offer has become nothing short of a torturous marathon with very little respect shown for the individual wanting to work for your organization. Here we are nearing pumpkin time and I have candidates being called for interviews for jobs they applied to in July!
The smugness of a company figuring they can drag this on as for long as they feel like is callous and not ethical. I have heard people near the top say, "well if they don't like it they can withdraw from the process"...really?...can they? Easy to say when you have a job. Try thinking that way when you are on COBRA, paying your own life insurance and your unemployment is about to give out. Or how about saying this when you are renting out your home to pay the mortgage (so you don't lose your home) as you sleep on the sofa of a friend. Or say this to me when you are actually talking about selling blood/plasma to pay bills. (All real and happening to people I am working with right now!)
6.) How about the company who is cynically hiring the new college graduate with the intent of using them up at the lowest pay they can get away with based on the downturn in the economy. Can you sleep at night? Would you encourage your own kid to take this job? Would you take this job? What happens down the road when this new talent won't touch you based on the reputation you have?
7.) Discrimination based on any protected category because you can get away with it. You think it is not obvious, but it is...go to Glassdoor.com and read about yourself...not as opaque as you thought huh?.
Believe me, the bad deeds are shared on blogs, newsletters, in coffee shops, among friends, with career counselors and coaches. Memories will be long after this one folks.
I have names, I have companies, I have seen this terrible side of the economic downturn and I am saddened and appalled. It is tough out there, but human courtesy to people looking for work should be the norm in the best of times and is incredibly necessary at the worst of times. People are hurting and even when they do not provide a fit for what you need, you can be civil and professional in your treatment. A simple thank you for considering us but...would be fantastic.
So, just keep in mind that people will remember this behavior and when the table turns (as it will as anyone in the HR field knows), these skilled and currently out of work people will be sought after, they will be the same people you will try your darnedest to recruit...and they will remember. I know I will.
Last gripe...Okay giant software companies who do not believe in telecommuting...what dinosaur did you ride in on?
BUT...
Hey all of you folks out there in the business of posting jobs, receiving resumes, setting up interviews, interviewing, making hiring decisions etc... I know you are busy, but...
I am working with students (undergraduate and graduate level), new alums entering the workforce, well trained and highly skilled alums with years of experience, colleagues in search of work, friends and family who have been laid off...you get my drift...I am working with people across the entire spectrum of careers, professional specializations, skills sets, ages, gender, ethnic groups and so on...they have at least two things in common:
1.) They are in search of a job
2.) They feel that during the process, they have been treated in an appalling way by organizations seeking employees
The complaints go like this: (some of these have always been so and some are clearly new in the game)
1.) No response: They send a resume and do not even get a simple email response (which can be automated people!) to notify the sender of receipt of the resume/cover letter. There is apparently a huge black hole circling the Earth like a ring of Saturn sucking up all the resumes and cover letters. How else to explain the dead air that greets so many applicants?
2.) HR is outsourced so they are talking to an HR person in Idaho for a job in San Diego. The HR firm clearly has no real idea about the structure of the office for which the person is applying and therefore the details shared about reporting structure, office setting, interview dates and so on have little, if any, bearing in reality. I am working with someone who has now been told 3 different individuals will be his supervisor for this one job. We figure he will find out once he actually begins his job.
3.) In house HR offices have been downsized to the point of insanity. One person is now HR, recruiting, payroll, and even operations! This may explain 1 and 2 above but it does not explain the organizational decision to do this in the first place. My grandmother used to call this "penny-wise, pound foolish"!
4.) The number of interviews being conducted to get to the point of an offer has gotten completely out of hand. I know someone who went on 12 interviews (yes, I said 12) only to lose the job in the last round once the VP determined he was over 50! Twelve interviews for one job...give me a break, do you really think that many people need to be in the process? If yes, they for heaven sake...have you heard of panel interviews! The candidate felt as thought the window washer would be called in next to give his opinion. Don't even get me started on the visual of the VP using the date of college graduation to actually do the math on the resume to calculate the applicant's age!!!
5.) The timeline from job posting to phone screen to first on site interview to potential offer has become nothing short of a torturous marathon with very little respect shown for the individual wanting to work for your organization. Here we are nearing pumpkin time and I have candidates being called for interviews for jobs they applied to in July!
The smugness of a company figuring they can drag this on as for long as they feel like is callous and not ethical. I have heard people near the top say, "well if they don't like it they can withdraw from the process"...really?...can they? Easy to say when you have a job. Try thinking that way when you are on COBRA, paying your own life insurance and your unemployment is about to give out. Or how about saying this when you are renting out your home to pay the mortgage (so you don't lose your home) as you sleep on the sofa of a friend. Or say this to me when you are actually talking about selling blood/plasma to pay bills. (All real and happening to people I am working with right now!)
6.) How about the company who is cynically hiring the new college graduate with the intent of using them up at the lowest pay they can get away with based on the downturn in the economy. Can you sleep at night? Would you encourage your own kid to take this job? Would you take this job? What happens down the road when this new talent won't touch you based on the reputation you have?
7.) Discrimination based on any protected category because you can get away with it. You think it is not obvious, but it is...go to Glassdoor.com and read about yourself...not as opaque as you thought huh?.
Believe me, the bad deeds are shared on blogs, newsletters, in coffee shops, among friends, with career counselors and coaches. Memories will be long after this one folks.
I have names, I have companies, I have seen this terrible side of the economic downturn and I am saddened and appalled. It is tough out there, but human courtesy to people looking for work should be the norm in the best of times and is incredibly necessary at the worst of times. People are hurting and even when they do not provide a fit for what you need, you can be civil and professional in your treatment. A simple thank you for considering us but...would be fantastic.
So, just keep in mind that people will remember this behavior and when the table turns (as it will as anyone in the HR field knows), these skilled and currently out of work people will be sought after, they will be the same people you will try your darnedest to recruit...and they will remember. I know I will.
Last gripe...Okay giant software companies who do not believe in telecommuting...what dinosaur did you ride in on?
Friday, August 14, 2009
Birthdays, agreements and ravings
August is birthday month for me and that means I have spent the month leading up to my birthday re-evaluating my life and looking at the balance of what I bring in to my days and what I return to the universe. I like to think of this as my own sense of being sustainable. For me to take and take and take without giving back would not be a life well-lived.
I am a counselor and coach by profession and I spend my days supporting, advocating, hugging, challenging and considering the people who walk into my office or into my life. I choose to do this as my career because I find joy in helping people uncover their skills, dreams, greatest gifts, values and callings.
Sometimes the journey is hard for the both of us and sometimes I must challenge long held assumptions on the part of my client; and mine as well. The wonder in what I do has often become evident in just how much a particular person will give back to me at my roughest moments, and they may never even know they have done so. We seem to cross one another’s paths at the moment we both need renewal.
As the world turns another revolution for me on my grand adventure, I am setting a slightly shifted course with deeper conviction. I will say what needs to be said when it must be said. I will show those I love just how much I care, I will laugh more (yes, imagine that all of you who see me giggle quite a bit already), I will be honest with myself, I will make my health central to all I do, I will listen with more intention and I will let go of the past petty feelings of hurt. I will try to remember the four agreements:
Be Impeccable with Your Word:
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
Don't Take Anything Personally:
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
Don't Make Assumptions:
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
Always Do Your Best:
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
~ Don Miguel Ruiz
So, what needs to be said right now?
~ I am sorry for hurting your feelings.
~ I should have been more patient this morning.
~ You look beautiful in that color.
~ I am proud you are my daughter.
~ You are the best son a mom could ever imagine.
~ I love you Mark.
~ Health care IS a right. We do not have to have written that in the Constitution for it to be true.
~ Get over it already!
~ Tolerance is not enough, inclusion is the goal.
~ We must reach across our differences and find the points of intersection that make us “family”.
~ Time IS running out.
~ Shirley, I miss you.
~ Anne, would you like to “do coffee”?
~ I have some of the most amazing co-workers in the world!
~ I hate filing but have learned that color coding can make it bearable.
~ I am a fan of Gumby.
~ The glass is half full and there must be a pony in here somewhere!
~ I am following a dream, living my reality, striving for better, remaining grateful for what I have, thanking my ancestors; I am feeling rich.
~ I miss my grandparents.
~ I believe rape and domestic violence ARE hate crimes.
~ FOX News should be ashamed.
~ Dick Cheney scares me, like the devil when I was a child.
~ John Stewart deserves a medal.
~ We do ration health care, by wealth. Did you see the line in LA today for people trying to access basic care? Did you see the research that shows that rich people live significantly longer than the poor in this country. Did you see Glenn Beck bitch and rage about how US health care sucks right after his last surgery but apparently now he feels we have the greatest system on earth? Earth to Glenn?
~ Why is it socialist to provide health care but not to access Medicare or go to public school?
~ Why are you un-American when you stand up to protest an unjust war in meetings run by Republicans but you are a loyal American when you stand up to shout out a Democrat trying to gather input in a town hall meeting?
All heat, no light.
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
Scenarios and tips for the real career world
These come from real life happening in the world of job seekers.
1.}You are applying for a position in organization ABC, gathering data from
networking resources (yes); informational interviewing with contacts
in organization and field (yes); emailing CEO for advice on where this role is
leading with super-friendly, gushing, non-professional email (on my no!).
2.}Finding out about a job posting and deferring applying until you are
100% ready, or because you have all this stuff to do...(no!).
3.}Randomly sending resumes for every open position within
an organization (No! this shows lack of focus and hints at desperation.
4.} Believing that networking and stalking are basically the same thing :-)
(wrong...one is a great job search tool and the other leads to
restraining orders). Show initiative and eagerness for the job without calling or emailing every 72 hours. Be respectful and persistent.
5.} Sending the same resume to all the jobs you apply for.Do the
positions all have the same title? Then why would the same resume work? I interviewed someone once who clearly had a cover letter that was not supported by the resume. The cover letter was accurate but she had not taken the time to update and target her resume for the role. It was a clear disconnect and showed lack of attention to detail and enthusiasm for the position.
6.} Informational interviews are job searches in disguise...not! This is the fastest way to ruin your chances and the chances of those who come
after you...very bad form and ethically a huge no-no.
7.} Sending 100 resumes out to postings on Craig's list constitutes a job
search...wrong! You must actually leave the room to be doing a job
search. Statistics indicate that 80% of jobs are found through networking while roughly 20% of job searchers ever use this route.This means, 80% of people are
searching jobs online, where 20% of the jobs are posted while only 20% are networking into 80% of the open positions; you do the math!
8.} Networking is nepotism...only if you are jealous of great
networkers. Most people who succeed with networking have spent hours
building and feeding their professional network, they find a job lead
and follow it, it is usually the 3rd level of contacts that pays off
for them. Networking in it's true sense is not finding a job at your uncle Bernie's CPA firm...it is instead, building relationships that are professionally reciprocal
moving forward.
9.} I have a degree from XXX so I deserve $$$ for my first job and I expect to live like my parents do now. Question: Have you actually seen a photo of your
parent's first apartment? You must and will pay your dues it is time to grow up
and accept it. You will be a better person for the struggles (and you
will remember these times always). Be brave, give up the feeling of
being entitled...no one is.
10.} Someone got a better break than me because they are...fill in the
blank. Well, maybe they did, or maybe they were actually more
qualified. Do not waste your time on why, pick yourself up, move
forward, find your support system and earn the professional respect.
11.} Some of your bosses will suck, some with inspire, some with be absent
minded, some will be micro-managers, some will claim your work as
theirs (take it back), some will be stingy, some will be absent, some
will not see your talent; learn form them how to be a great boss and how not
to be a jerk.
12.} Don't bring soup, your best friend or your mom to your job
interview.
13.} Never lie or misspell on your resume.
14.} Be who you are in your interview, makes it easier to remember who you
are on the first day of work.
15.} Do not buy your new suit the day before the interview.
16.} Personal scents should never announce your arrival or be the reason
you are remembered several hours after you have left the building.
17.} If you can hear your earrings when you walk...they are not meant for
an interview.
18.} Shaking hands is an art form: do not try to steal the jewelry, grasping
a discreet Kleenex can solve the sweaty hand thing, the limp fish I do
not rally want to touch you hand shake is frankly creepy and holding
on longer than 3 seconds is into that uncomfortable zone. Please look someone in the eye when you shake hands.
19.} Never apologize for who you are. Your life has brought you to this day (both good and bad). Do you really want to work for someone who makes you feel like less than you are, or can be?
20.} In short, life is funny, sometimes crappy, and often beautiful...enjoy
the ride, laugh at yourself and giggle at the total absurdity of what
we count as success. Be comfortable with ambiguity, the best answer is often "it depends".
oh yeah, have a blast...
1.}You are applying for a position in organization ABC, gathering data from
networking resources (yes); informational interviewing with contacts
in organization and field (yes); emailing CEO for advice on where this role is
leading with super-friendly, gushing, non-professional email (on my no!).
2.}Finding out about a job posting and deferring applying until you are
100% ready, or because you have all this stuff to do...(no!).
3.}Randomly sending resumes for every open position within
an organization (No! this shows lack of focus and hints at desperation.
4.} Believing that networking and stalking are basically the same thing :-)
(wrong...one is a great job search tool and the other leads to
restraining orders). Show initiative and eagerness for the job without calling or emailing every 72 hours. Be respectful and persistent.
5.} Sending the same resume to all the jobs you apply for.Do the
positions all have the same title? Then why would the same resume work? I interviewed someone once who clearly had a cover letter that was not supported by the resume. The cover letter was accurate but she had not taken the time to update and target her resume for the role. It was a clear disconnect and showed lack of attention to detail and enthusiasm for the position.
6.} Informational interviews are job searches in disguise...not! This is the fastest way to ruin your chances and the chances of those who come
after you...very bad form and ethically a huge no-no.
7.} Sending 100 resumes out to postings on Craig's list constitutes a job
search...wrong! You must actually leave the room to be doing a job
search. Statistics indicate that 80% of jobs are found through networking while roughly 20% of job searchers ever use this route.This means, 80% of people are
searching jobs online, where 20% of the jobs are posted while only 20% are networking into 80% of the open positions; you do the math!
8.} Networking is nepotism...only if you are jealous of great
networkers. Most people who succeed with networking have spent hours
building and feeding their professional network, they find a job lead
and follow it, it is usually the 3rd level of contacts that pays off
for them. Networking in it's true sense is not finding a job at your uncle Bernie's CPA firm...it is instead, building relationships that are professionally reciprocal
moving forward.
9.} I have a degree from XXX so I deserve $$$ for my first job and I expect to live like my parents do now. Question: Have you actually seen a photo of your
parent's first apartment? You must and will pay your dues it is time to grow up
and accept it. You will be a better person for the struggles (and you
will remember these times always). Be brave, give up the feeling of
being entitled...no one is.
10.} Someone got a better break than me because they are...fill in the
blank. Well, maybe they did, or maybe they were actually more
qualified. Do not waste your time on why, pick yourself up, move
forward, find your support system and earn the professional respect.
11.} Some of your bosses will suck, some with inspire, some with be absent
minded, some will be micro-managers, some will claim your work as
theirs (take it back), some will be stingy, some will be absent, some
will not see your talent; learn form them how to be a great boss and how not
to be a jerk.
12.} Don't bring soup, your best friend or your mom to your job
interview.
13.} Never lie or misspell on your resume.
14.} Be who you are in your interview, makes it easier to remember who you
are on the first day of work.
15.} Do not buy your new suit the day before the interview.
16.} Personal scents should never announce your arrival or be the reason
you are remembered several hours after you have left the building.
17.} If you can hear your earrings when you walk...they are not meant for
an interview.
18.} Shaking hands is an art form: do not try to steal the jewelry, grasping
a discreet Kleenex can solve the sweaty hand thing, the limp fish I do
not rally want to touch you hand shake is frankly creepy and holding
on longer than 3 seconds is into that uncomfortable zone. Please look someone in the eye when you shake hands.
19.} Never apologize for who you are. Your life has brought you to this day (both good and bad). Do you really want to work for someone who makes you feel like less than you are, or can be?
20.} In short, life is funny, sometimes crappy, and often beautiful...enjoy
the ride, laugh at yourself and giggle at the total absurdity of what
we count as success. Be comfortable with ambiguity, the best answer is often "it depends".
oh yeah, have a blast...
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